I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.
I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list.It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.
Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to.“No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope.” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me.His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.