Most socially anxious people feel they are inferior in some way to everyone else, and if this inferiority was discovered by someone, then it would mean instant rejection.
The last thing I want to hear from you is a 'What's wrong? ' or some other unwanted emotional response from your non-requested contact with me. As long as you remain there for us, when we need you, how we need you and on our terms.
By irrelevant, what I meant was in actual 'thought' form on our side. This is what I meant when I referenced: "irrelevant". The happier that you are, the less we have to rely on you coming to us to help you with your happiness. If you become too needy, you are devalued and dismissed from our lives completely, or if we need supply, you become one of our playtoys. All of this minutia and other details do not change anything. And when I 've pushed for information he's told me outright he'll make it impossible for me to access any information if I a pressure him.
I thought if a girl I liked found out about my lack of past relationships and experience, her interest would disappear before it even started.
Basically I thought if people found out about “the real me,” then they would instantly reject me. Even though they only asked to try to be friendly, I didn’t want them to know I had spent it alone keeping myself amused.
Usually this happens through trying to create a certain IMPRESSION on someone.
Think about this carefully, because it’s important.I do not think of them unless they can satisfy a need in my life at the current time.They are not allowed to dictate what we do, where we go and when we do it. If I respond to your contact with me, when I have not been the one to initiate the contact and I am nice and/or seem interested, do not confuse this with authenticity.My ex who is very supportive of my welfare and my goals yet refuses to divulge any information about his personal life. He definitely does not want to hear any information about me in regards to dating or men in general. Actually, I find it challenging to my friendship with him, and it once again affects my self esteem. Narcs do not care or even think about intimate details of the personal life of someone else. I have never even thought to tell anyone about my personal life. Schizoids love the idea of asymetrical information. At the heart of everything, our secrecy is about control. We do not want you to live for us or commit to us fully. We want you to have your own life and for us to only be peripherally involved in it.He definitely does not want to hear any information about me in regards to dating or men in general. Actually, I find it challenging to my friendship with him, and it once again affects my self esteem. This leads to us speaking to each other intimately, at least it has previously. We simply want to know that you exist for us, are committed to us fully and available for us when we want you to be. What you have said, makes perfect sense to me and I agree completely.This leads to us speaking to each other intimately, at least it has previously. The one part which may not have been clarified is that Ms Meow is referencing her most significant other in her life and not simply another 'person' in her life.