Don’t do it Do not have unreasonable expectations of your date Remember – dignity and respect Do what is expected of you and not what you want to do Do not force intimacy.
Check out Modern Manners Guy's 3 simple rules for making an online love connection.Being a romantic, I’m highly optimistic about love, I believe that people can find love anywhere, at any time, and under any circumstance. My art training taught me a thing or two about Photoshop.If you are planning to take the plunge into the world of online dating, you should learn the code of online dating etiquette first; it will save you from wasting time, being disappointed and hurting the feelings of other people. You will be dealing with real people with real feelings.Here are some of the rules you should follow to protect yourself and others.Lisa Mirza Grotts is a recognized etiquette expert, an on-air contributor, and the author of A Traveler's Passport to Etiquette.
She is a former director of protocol for the city and county of San Francisco and the founder and CEO of The AML Group ( By the end of this page you will have practical knowledge of good dating etiquette to enable you to make a positively good impression You will not bumble along in ignorance causing your prospect to roll their eyes in despair It will change your world for the better Dating etiquette comes naturally to people who already have good manners and show consideration for others at all times It is second nature to them; they are not self-centered and are respected by people of either sex When people date they usually share a common objective – they hope to win over the object of their affection They therefore want to give a favourable impression of themselves Hopefully, they will also bring out the best in their date The fact that you have read this far indicates that you want to know how to behave properly on your date so that you can practice good dating etiquette; a good start!The rules are basically the same for teens, the middle aged and seniors, first date or last date, girls or guys Primary rule – girls and guys, treat your date with dignity and respect; this applies to online dating as well Don’t know what dignity and respect are? Broaden your vocabulary beyond a few repetitive expletives No drunkenness.This is a good opportunity to agree on who pays for what? If you are running late ring and give a new ETA Dress appropriately for the occasion. Lightly perfumed or with deodoriser/after shave Guys – open, hold open and close doors for your date (even if she is driving) It shows that you are prepared to go out of your way to be courteous to her Girls - let him, but don’t expect it Either way, be gracious about it; smile or thank him This is not the time to push your liberated female views Some other time...maybe Girls usually precede guys in the theatre, church, movies, to the table at a restaurant and most other places and guys help her to be seated - this is sophisticated dating etiquette Guys on the other hand lead the way through crowds and traffic On sidewalks, guys should walk nearest the street to 'protect’ the girl - you get the idea Compliment each other Neither one of you is perfect, there has to be something to compliment with sincerity Look for it. If you can’t find something to compliment, why are you dating this person? Practice being gracious right to the end Next time start with a cup of coffee first – just to test the water Do not abandon your date at the venue Be close and attentive or it may become your last date with that person Being attentive to your date does not mean totally excluding all others in the group or at the party Be pleasant to your date Talking down to your date or being patronising is not good etiquette Remember your manners.Guys, be prepared to pay for the date (especially the first one) Subsequent ones can be worked out in due course when you know a bit more about each other Never spring it on her to 'cough up' If you pay, understand that there must be no strings attached Girls, be considerate - offer to pay half OR to buy the drinks or something to show that you are not a freeloader. Then there can be no strings attached and you can maintain your independence But don’t sweat the issue - you could talk about it on the way to the venue so that you are prepared You could offer to cook a meal or bring a picnic basket to the next date if there is the possibility of a follow up date Be prepared ahead of time to have a few topics for light hearted conversation; nothing too controversial No strong opinions please Remember that the objective of a date is generally to assess the potential of coming together to be a couple in a close permanent relationship in so far as permanency goes Never stand up your date Postpone rather than cancel Do not just fail to show up. Say – please, thank you, after you, you’re welcome, etc Acknowledge each others’ courtesies with a smile and/or ‘thank you’ Show a keen interest in your date Make frequent eye contact (do not leer) Use their name – frequently.It puts your date in an awkward position Guys, see her to her door after the date It’s for her safety A friendly hug in greeting or to say good bye may be OK or perhaps a kiss on the cheek.