So I think I may have screwed up by asking too soon to meet in person, to her I'm a total stranger and might think I just want to get into her pants. If the person is attractive I want an intelligent email to follow behind it.And the thing i know about online ads is its shady as she has other potential prospects. So i guess if anything, im just trying to learn from my mistakes. After a few emails ( I despise the messengers ~ no time to sit on those ) then if I or he suggests a phone call then that part is done.If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.
So the next day I wrote back asking her name (as she never included it), and i said that the following day I would be out and said if you're free lets grab coffee around noon and to let me know.I took it as a hint because she mentioned something about coffee to warm up in her previous reply.I want to get it over with if he's a dud, but more importantly, I want to move it offline as quickly as possible. Varying from this without her prompting you to do so will likely scare her.She'll think you're too eager to meet her and maybe will tie her up in the basement and feed her cheese and water.And the thing i know about online ads is its shady as she has other potential prospects. So i guess if anything, im just trying to learn from my mistakes. For me, anywhere between a week and a month, depends on the guy, for me.
If we seem to hit it off intially, I like to meet very soon. Not online PHONE NUMBER EXCHANGE or online 'hi my name is joe, I don't like typing, call me so I can be comfortable while YOU'RE uncomfortable' you arrange a full date.I feel I may have lost a few chances with some ladies on this site due to me not "jumping on the opportunity". They are shaped by their life experiences, their upbringing and their personality.I mean, how much time is appropriate before I drop my number or ask for her's? I feel like if I ask too soon it would seem weird, creepy, or desperate; and I certainly don't define myself as any of those things. We are each really confident in some areas of our lives and more cautious in others and those areas of comfort will vary per person.And besides, im not a fan of the whole getting to know someone over the web thing..it's hard to build attraction behind the computer screen.Im not desperate to get into her pants, but whether or not she could make it im not sweating over...And, to be fair, although this skill helps to ask in a timely manner, there will always be times when you (and anyone else) mis-judges another person's willingness to meet.