For example, if a requirement for you is someone who is clean cut and works out, you likely won’t want to choose a photo of yourself hungover and wearing sweats, but a photo of you after you participated in a Color Run would be great! As the responses roll in, keep an eye on your Requirements/Dealbreakers list and compare it with the people who are sending you messages.If you’re looking for someone who is outgoing and silly just like you, a photo of you studying might not catch the person’s eye as much as a photo of you at karaoke. If someone meets your requirements without having any of your dealbreakers, that’s a great reason to begin a conversation! The questionnaire is designed to let the profile writer get to know you really well, including your preferences for the kind of people you would like to date.
Take a look at each category on its own and figure out what the overall theme is (ex: dresses well straight teeth short hair= I’m looking for someone clean cut! Turn the list into requirements/dealbreakers Take a look at your past relationships, at the traits of your partners that worked well for you and the aspects that created stress. Think about what is truly important and make a list of 3-5 “must haves” and 3-5 “absolutely nots.” Be as realistic as possible without worrying what someone else might think.(If straight teeth or being taller than you is truly a must-have for you, don’t remove it out of fear of appearing shallow.) In addition, take time to think about what will truly impact a relationship (maybe the person doesn’t have to have a dog named Spot, but you want to find someone who will be loving to your dog).Example services are: opening a dating site account and getting it up and running with 3-5 photos and a profile (for people not well-versed with the Internet) , flexibility to ask us all kinds of questions (for a fixed period of time e.g.Do not forget to properly handle with care and respect.Allow yourself to chat with people who might not look the way you envisioned or who might be very different from others you’ve dated.
On the other hand, don’t let yourself get sucked in by a great looking person who lacks items on your requirements list and/or who has traits on your dealbreakers list.Start with a list Make a list of every single thing you look for in your perfect match (between 5’10 and 6’, makes at least 75K, owns a dog named Spot, goes to church on Sundays, etc.) Make the list as long as you can.Now begin to group the items on the list into similar categories (appearance, career, free time, beliefs, etc.).We question whether to add our job titles to our profiles, we debate whether our photos should indicate what we do, we wonder if someone who looks but doesn’t message was turned off by our professional status.In short, we’re women who live in a society that teaches us in so many ways that we are doing what we shouldn’t: being self-sufficient, educated women.Consider whether you are looking to join free sites (no cost but possibly fewer people who are seriously looking for love) or paid sites (financial investment, but this may keep out those who aren’t serious in their search).