It’s can be tempting to just focus on your romance when you’re in love, but when children are involved, you have a sacred responsibility to make wise dating decisions that reflect God’s best for all of you.
Here’s how you can date wisely as a single parent: Realize the significance of your dating decisions.
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When you’re a single parent or dating someone who is, you need to consider more than just whether or not your relationship should lead to marriage.You also need to consider how well you all may be able to form a healthy stepfamily together.Instead of looking for the right person to date, first focus on becoming the spiritually and emotionally healthy person that God wants you to be before entering into another romantic relationship.Honestly ask yourself whether or not you’ve healed from the trauma of your divorce or previous spouse’s death, how confident you are in relying on God alone instead of hoping that dates will meet your emotional needs, and how vulnerable you are to being drawn into romantic fantasies that distort the reality of relationships.If not, have the courage to end your dating relationship and move on, to best serve yourself and your family. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including Family Life Today, Focus on the Family, and The 700 Club.
Ron and his wife, Nan, and their sons live in Little Rock, Arkansas.
Keep in mind that your perspective on your relationships is limited, whereas God’s perspective is complete – so it makes sense to trust God’s guidance. It’s important to know what’s motivating you to date, and what goals you have for your dating relationships.
God’s purposes for single parent dating involve discerning: if you and your date can walk humbly with God together and share common values, if you can both love each other sacrificially with your whole hearts, and if the children involved will truly be blessed by combining your families.
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Ask God every day to give you the wisdom you need to make the very best dating decisions, and choose to follow the guidance God gives you, even when doing so is difficult.
God’s goals for dating are healthy marriages and families.